Lean into the masculine and get what you want!
Last month we shared tips on CV and cover letter writing – practical advice on ensuring you get noticed by employers and hiring managers.
In this March issue, I share some more practical advice around asking for the things you want or need at work and the ways in which we (as women and Mothers) need to lean more into masculine ways to build confidence and assertion into our careers and the things we want to achieve.
Grab a coffee and allow me to explain…
There’s a quote that reads something like “you are what you put out into the world.” Meaning, if you have a healthy, confident, and abundant mindset – you will attract only the good around you, vs an unhealthy, insecure and finite mindset repelling the very things you desire.
Generally speaking, women and women who then become mothers, naturally end up putting their family ahead of everything else. As leaders in our families, this means we often end up eating last!
As mothers, we can slowly end up sacrificing too much of ourselves and our careers as we lead our families. So, in looking at the family and traditional gender roles, we have a bit to learn from our male or more masculine partners. Learnings such as demanding more time and space, practicing assertion, being and acting confident, and using the right language and self-talk to get what we want.
Let’s frame this in the scenario of you asking your boss (or partner) to work differently to explain.
Know what you’re asking for
Be clear about the insights & experience-based evidence you’ve gained and what your new needs are at work (or at home). Then write them down so you’re prepared to share them with clarity and confidence.
Use clear and assertive language
Don’t apologise for having the conversation or using language that minimises you. Hold your ground. Cut out phrases like ‘Sorry to ask this …’ or ‘I just wanted to talk about…’
Be as clear and precise as you can when asking for what you want.
Instead of saying: “Sorry, but I just wanted to talk to you about maybe having more flexibility in my role”
Try: “I’ve loved being able to pick my children up from school. I’d like to talk to you about having more flexibility in my role, and for me, ideally, that means working a three-day week.”
Frame it as a trial
There are still many unknowns for employers, so it makes sense to propose any changes as a trial or experiment. You could say:
“Things have shifted since COVID-19. I’d like to try X for a period of a month and see how it goes. What would these changes mean for you and our team/organisation?”
Ensure your request aligns with the organisation’s (or your family’s) goals
If you think about your own needs in isolation from your employer or family goals, then your request may fall on deaf ears. Always think about how both sides can experience value or change for the better!
Adapted from: seek.co.nz/career-advice/article
After International Women’s Day on Monday this week (I shared a FB post here), it is ever apparent that women are choosing to challenge more of what makes our work/life juggle so hard. And there are many ways we can progress towards change to improve things. We can:
- Ask for better working conditions
- Ask for better home conditions
- #Choosetochallenge the status quo
- Lean into more masculine ways, while suggesting our partners lean into more feminine ways.
All of these things need to happen in tandem…so we can all achieve the balance we so crave!
Finally, I wanted to introduce a new section called The Client Corner. This section champions employer clients who have got behind RecruitMum and hired through our untapped community. This month I wanted to credit National Capital who hired a KiwiSaver Client Consultant through us last month.
Please show them some love and consider how National Capital could help you choose the right Kiwi Saver Fund while boosting your family’s savings! Click their logo below and see what KiwiSaver Fund might be the best for you and the future of your loved ones.
Till next time…you got this!
Did you know the origins of the English word Thursday is named after the Norse God of Thunder? Hence Thor’s day – to Thursday, but with a ‘u’.
So…with ‘you’ in mind, let’s talk about how RecruitMum’s services can bring a little or a lot of Thunder to your evolving work place!
Whether a sharp loud crack or a long low rumble, every organisation right now is experiencing a degree of thunder.
Covid-19 is that sense of thunder, causing many workplaces (whether they like it or not) to experience a rapid expansion in how they’re expected to work.
I like to think, that that growing expectation is around doing good, being good and feeling good. Otherwise, why else are we here?
I started RecruitMum to make mother’s careers matter, to create the necessary space for their career’s to thrive.
For you as the employer, it means that by choosing RecruitMum, you’re able to connect to an untapped, experienced & proven talent force, taking your pain out of the recruitment process and making every hire mean something!
Inclusion, Financial Sense, Scaling for Growth, Becoming An Employer of Choice, Achieving a Healthy Gender Balance & Flexing Roles to Build Trust Fast are just some of the reasons why I created this business with Employers & Mums in mind.
Which is high on your ‘thunder’ agenda for 2021?
- Inclusion – RecruitMum enables you to meet your D&I Strategy via hiring experienced Mums.
- Financial Sense – a part-time employee costs less than a FTE and current commentary suggests that women come back more focused and more productive after having children. So you get more bang for your buck!
- Scaling for Growth – business growth is not always about profit. Mothers, across ethnicities and cultures, bring diversity of thought and new ways of doing. This is where growth, in all its forms, happens.
- Becoming An Employer of Choice – where do you see your business in the next 5-10 years? Will you be the kind of business people want to work for?
- Achieving a Gender Balance – women are breaking into new industries – some predominantly male. Construction, the Trades, Engineering and IT. It’s why we love our relationship with NAWIC.
- Flexing Roles to Build Trust Fast – I get that it’s hard, but sometimes we just have to give trust first until trust is broken. Trust creates high-performing and connected teams.
Till next time…
Wanting some solid simple tips on creating a CV that stands out?
Watch this short Facebook Live with myself and Emma Mclean, Founder of Works for Everyone as we support our working Wahine and career Mums on curating a CV that helps get you noticed by employers!
In this short video we cover:
- Design and Format (how best to organise and illustrate the content)
- Content (what information you should include, which is of most interest to employers, hiring managers, and recruiters)
- Contact Information (what details you should include, extra points for a LinkedIn bio link, and what doesn’t need a mention)
It’s the start of a new year and more than ever candidates are considering their options in regards to leaving their current job, re-training, or exploring new career industries and challenges. In this issue of Choose-days Talent, we profile four top candidates offering expertise as a project director, marketing manager, civil engineer, and senior designer.
Project Director (MSc, BSc – Auckland based)
This candidate brings 15 years NZ based senior leadership experience in business transformation, with the following set of skills and results:
- Extensive C-suite skills
- Proficiency at setting and executing change and improvement strategies
- Highly adept at commercial management of contracts
- Generated 30% growth per annum in their last role as a project director in the utility sector
- Led Operations Performance Improvement programme, gaining client confidence and winning contract renewal as a result
Marketing Manager (Auckland based)
This candidate is a fortune 500 and NYSE listed marketer with over 10 years of experience. With experience using technological platforms, such as Salesforce; Marketo; Eloqua; Google Analytics; Hootsuite; SAP; MS Office/Excel/ PowerPoint/ Project/SharePoint; Canva; CMS, and Adobe Photoshop. They are adept at:
- Marketing Strategies
- Customer Lead Generation (ATL, TTL, BTL)
- PR Management & Brand Growth
- Internal Communications
- Integrated Multi-Channel Campaigns
- MarTech Stack Management
Civil Engineer (BCE – Auckland based)
Possessing transferrable skills in purchasing and staff supervision, with the added advantage of being quick to familiarise with the latest technologies and industry developments, this candidate has technical expertise in MS Office, AutoCAD, and Revit 2016, with core competencies in:
- Civil Engineering
- Quantity Surveying
- Quality Assurance
and last but not least…
Senior Design Manager (Site Safe, Risk Management Course 2020 – Auckland)
With 15 years of experience in design, spatial, and project management roles, this candidate is an innovative, collaborative and client-focused Senior Design Manager. They have worked on high-end, urban fit-outs through to multi-million-dollar construction projects. Their core competencies lie in:
- Project management
- Networking, lead follow-up and business development
- Managing financial and project budgets
- Quality assurance, risk management and claims requirements
- Software capability including AutoCAD, Revit, and Adobe (InDesign)
What we can learn…
This is just some of the ‘Mumazing’ talent we champion. They are among women who in the face of this pandemic are challenged with ever more obstacles and barriers in maintaining their successful careers. But these are women who are also continuing to forge their path the only way they know how…to simply keep on keeping on and finding opportunities even in the hardest of times. They are inspiring and I hope they are to you too.
Who would you choose for your business?
Inspo quote: The New Year – a time to say goodbye and a time to say hello. (Simple, but true!)
A manager once told me in an email that “the last few months have made me acutely aware of how much time we don’t spend together.” This after a pretty challenging year, but one that probably required even more regular catch-ups than ever, due to those very challenges. By that time, along with a lack of individual performance planning, it was unfortunately too little, too late.
Your relationships with your colleagues, whether managers or subordinates are the paths to building strong communication lines of trust, loyalty, and understanding. Without regular conversations, not just about work, we miss the vital opportunity to learn about each other and gain an appreciation for what makes each other tick.
I have always been good at setting goals. Big or small, they help give you a sense of direction both for self-development and for the direction of your company, and after the last 12-months, I reckon we zone in on two key goals that will provide a sense of direction and self-development for you and your business or career.
What are two key goals you can make this year?
Think one for your personal life and the other for your business/career. With focus and clarity, comes a plan that projects confidence, direction, success, and fulfillment – whether or not you failed or succeeded in achieving your goal.
Director | RecruitMum
PS: One of the most important things in your business life is to make sure your staff are motivated. Find out what makes them tick, show interest, support them and you’ve just doubled the time it takes to build trust and loyalty into your culture.
We benefit by developing ourselves in order to build on our own future and achieve our life’s purpose.